As I get older, I get wiser. I get wiser to the fact that I don't know what the hell I'm doing most of the time. I forget how to parent. I forget how to be a friend. I forget to pay the bills. I forget to clean my house. I forget that people are usually NOT nice. I forget that people don't always say what they mean. I forget basic vocabulary. (I find that when I'm at a loss for words, that usually means it's time to keep my BIG FAT MOUTH SHUT).
Sometimes I post things on facebook that really seems to get under other people's skin. Whether it be political, LGBT related, social justice, parenting skills (or lack thereof), and most of all Religion. GASP! I say/post things to get a reaction out of people. ( laugh, smile, or think). I don't post things to get people upset or pissed off. (it happens anyway). I've always been 'kinda loud'. However, I would usually say things that would 'go with the crowd'. I did this because I didn't actually use my brain. I let others around me do that for me. This isn't anyone's fault by my own. I was controlled by the media (the only news I watched was FOX news). I was controlled by my church (whatever the pastor said is EXACTLY what I am supposed to understand to be true). I was controlled by people/friends around me (Get drunk? Twice in one day? Get high? Great idea).
Well, here I am. I'm almost 37 years old. (hard to believe huh?). I've been married to the same wonderful man for almost 19 years. (3 days after my 18th birthday). I have 3 children that are so incredible, I can't even begin to describe the joy that my heart feels when I think of them. I have a fully functional brain. It is a gift that God has given me. It is a gift that I think sat dormant for far too long. I knew in my heart that some things were wrong, but my pride, ego and brain told me otherwise.
This isn't about whether or not I feel Obamacare is awesome. (I'm self employed, I haven't had insurance for 11 years. We've paid out-of-pocket). This isn't about whether or not I feel Gays and Lesbians should be able to get married (Uh....MOST heterosexual people shouldn't get married). This isn't about if I think you should spank/not spank/time-out/physical labor.....it's your child.....YOU figure it out. If something isn't working, try something else. Religion? How do I feel about religion? Where do I begin?
Here's the deal. I state MY opinions. If you don't like it, fine. If you want to have a grown up conversation with me, great. What I will not tolerate is juvenile tactics, cut and paste articles, spewing of facts that you haven't done research on, accusations of things that I NEVER claimed to support, AND someone being an asshole.
There's enough nastiness out there. If I can accept and love YOU for who YOU are. Maybe you can accept me for the super hottie, tattooed, absent minded, granola, pro gay rights, Jesus follower that I am. (Jesus loves me just like this...)
Janie, my dear, I find you very bright. You and Shane have one of the most beautiful marriages that I have witnessed. You do have good opinions. I just wish that you didn't watch Fox News. I personally like CBS and NBC. However, your choice is yours to make. I too can be loud mouthed and my Carol and I are changing Churches in a few weeks. You may be noting this on my blogs. We will be able to attend church on Saturday evening and Carol will continue to play for another church on Sunday.
ReplyDeleteCarol and I have been married long enough to be your parents to me that is awesome. We have been married for close to 50 years and our children are 35 and 43 we have three grandsons ages 9, 5, and 4 and two beautiful daughters in law. My wonderful mother age 91 still lives by herself.
Bahahahahaha!!! Notice it said Watched FOX NEWS. We don't even watch the news anymore. We jump online to check out what is going on in the world, but find it so depressing that I won't look at it for days.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your kind words. It was such a pleasure to have been tent neighbors at The Goose. We would love to be able to meet your wife someday. She must be extraordinary to have snagged Brooks Gardner 50 years ago and to keep hold of him. :)
Blessings to you, my friend.